Are you in the dark when it comes to stimulating the clitoris? We’re here with tips, tricks, and no-no’s to help you please your woman better.
Did you know that the clit is so fabulous that it has its own awareness week? That’s right! Sponsored by Clitoraid, Clit Awareness Week has run in the month of May for the last 3 years, and it encourages women to enjoy their right to pleasure while also bringing awareness to genital mutilation. Genital mutilation is a horrific practice that still plagues some cultures today.
Despite the fact that the clitoris is one of the most pleasure-inducing parts of a woman’s body, using it to bring about pleasure still remains a mystery to both men and women alike. The clitoris is literally the only part of the body whose sole purpose is to be a pleasure zone!
While this little “button” may appear small, it actually extends behind the vulva and is directly connected to the G-spot *allegedly*! Furthermore, much like the Pen.!s, the clitoris also gets engorged once aroused, making the phrase “getting a hard on” applicable to both men and women.
A vast majority of women, up to 70%, require clitoral stimulation during intercourse to achieve org@.$m, which makes knowing how to maneuver around this sensitive little area your most important move when it comes to S3@.x:’ual satisfaction. Here are a few things you should be doing in order to bring pleasure through the clitoris.
#1 Always remember: repetition. Women’s bodies, specifically the clit, respond best to repetition. If you’re using circular motions and she’s getting into it, don’t start switching to up and down motions! Always pay attention to your woman’s responses to know which motions she’d like you to keep doing.
#2 Oral pleasures. Many women respond strongly to oral S3@.x:’ and feel that this is the only way they can org@.$m with their partner. Whether you’re simply looking to get her excited or you want to show her the final destination, oral is a great starting point.
I used to think the oral S3@.x:’ move of using your tongue to swirl the alphabet around your partner’s clit was just a joke – it’s no joke! This is a great way to make sure you’re moving your tongue around, and it’s also good for learning which movements your partner responds to best. Remember not to ignore other sensitive areas of the vulva, either. Lick around the thighs, lips, and opening *if she’s into that* to give her an even more tantalizing experience.
#3 Use your hands. We know it’s important to find out what your partner likes, but it’s equally as important to find out how she likes it. There are many different ways to touch the clitoris.
A couple of ways to stimulate it is by touching it with circular motions, with direct stimulation, massaging it while the hood is still over it, rubbing it between your thumb and forefinger or between the lips of the V@.g!na, going up and down, using lube, or by practicing some other technique your girl has discovered.
It should also be noted that if you’re bringing your hands anywhere near the V@.g!na, make sure your nails are clipped and clean since unwanted bacteria can cause UTIs, which are super painful and totally not S3@.x:’y.
#4 Friction through dry humping. Friction is a much-needed friend to clitoral org@.$ms. While the name doesn’t scream hot and S3@.x:’y, dry humping is an amazing way to please the clitoris. Get your girl on top of you and have her grind up against your Pen.!s. This is a great way for girls to achieve org@.$m. Make sure you are both wearing underwear for maximum friction for her. You can do this with the missionary position as well, but it will be easier for her to navigate her pleasure zones if she’s on top.
A N@kkd version of this can also be done, but it may start to get a little slippery! If you do this N@kkd in cowgirl position and she gets too wet to stay on track, simply switch positions, grab your Pen.!s, and start rubbing it in circles around her clit. She’ll thank you for it!
#5 Intercourse. After you’ve engaged in a long, exciting session of foreplay and have your girl wet and excited, you’re probably ready to get down to business: intercourse. For many women, it is very hard to org@.$m during intercourse without clitoral stimulation. Here are some easy, S3@.x:’y positions that offer great clitoral stimulation:
– Doggy style. In this position, you have the option to reach around and play with her clitoris, or give her the opportunity to play with herself using her fingers or a S3@.x:’ toy.
– Missionary – CAT position. This is a great position for clitoral stimulation. Get in regular missionary position and then move above her, so that your pelvis is grinding against her clit as you thrust. Many women love this position for having org@.$ms from intercourse.
– Girl on top. This position is great, whether she is in cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, as she has the opportunity to find the best position for her to grind her clitoris against you and reach org@.$m. If she’s the bouncing type, you can also use your thumb on her clitoris as she does her thing.
#6 S3@.x:’ toys. When in doubt, use a S3@.x:’ toy! A pocket rocket is a great toy to incorporate into your S3@.x:’ life as it’s not intimidating and is small enough that you can use it on your partner’s clit while you’re inside her or during foreplay to get her all riled up.
As you now know, the clit is an absolute pleasure zone. However, there are several things it will not respond favorably to. In fact, there are many things you can do to hurt the poor thing. Here’s a brief list of no-no’s when it comes to pleasuring the clit.
#1 Quick back and forth motions. Slow is very okay, but fast can hurt! It must be said that this signature P@.rn move of putting your fingers over the V@.g!na or clit and moving it back and forth like a pendulum on sped does not feel good at all. It also makes you look incredibly amateur when it comes to your understanding of how to please a woman.
The only time this should be done is if she is already very wet and excited. Otherwise, you’re more likely to hurt and inflame the clit. Go slow, lovers! She’s not going anywhere.
#2 Pulling the hood up before she’s ready. For lovers who know what they’re doing down south of a woman, they know that the clit lies beneath its protective hood *akin to the foreskin*. This knowledge is fantastic, but that doesn’t mean you should be rushing to pull the clitoral hood up right off the bat. Most women will find this too intense, even bordering on painful…..
There is usually no need to do this if your girl is excited enough, as the clit will expand on its own when aroused and allow for marvelous, engorged touching opportunities.
#3 Putting too much pressure on it. Think of the clitoris like a Pen.!s for a moment. When your partner is pleasuring your Pen.!s with their hand, you want to make sure their grip isn’t moving too fast, too slow, too soft, or too hard. It has to be juuust right. This is the same with the clit.
Putting too much pressure on the clit is uncomfortable and definitely not pleasurable. If you have a Pen.!s, you know how sensitive its 4,000 nerve endings can be, but the clit has twice that number! The clit contains 8,000 nerve endings that, when stimulated, can affect 15,000 separate nerve endings throughout the body. That baby’s super sensitive, so be nice!
#4 There is too much of a good thing. As much as your lover may appreciate you trying to give her endless org@.$ms, the clit is a fickle mistress who sometimes just doesn’t feel like more. While the clitoris has the amazing and mind-boggling capability to bring about multiple org@.$ms, there are times when, once she’s been satisfied, clitoral stimulation may actually end up turning pleasure into very intense pain.
In short, check with your lady love about whether she’s down with multiple O’s before you start your very thoughtful journey back to her sweet spots.
#5 Ignoring foreplay. If you don’t know this by now, foreplay is absolutely essential to making a woman see fireworks. Women need a lot of attention in the bedroom and need a certain level of arousal if an org@.$m is ever going to happen.
Pay attention to her erogenous zones such as her butt, neck, bre@.$ts, and inner thighs, and don’t skimp on using your hand, tongue, S3@.x:’ toy, or Pen.!s *without penetration* to stimulate her clit before any S3@.x:’ happens!
There are plenty of ways to please your partner via clitoral stimulation if you learn some basic techniques and keep an open dialogue with your lover. Remember, taking the time to learn about the clit is what will take you from a mediocre partner to an amazing one!